[srt1]

I live in franklin mo. I had anxiety all my life to some degree but in the last 6 months it seams to have taken over Ihave tryed many things except meds and dont want to start meds any advise you can give iwould appreciate thank you

[AS TIME GOES BY]

Hello Everyone

I am new to this forum, I did a google search because just lately i've been unable to sleep due to the big fear that grabs hold of me and won't let go.. I am so afraid of the fact that one day I won't be here.. then it goes from that to I hope I see my two small children grow up and don't want to die until they can remember me properly.. I never want to be without my husband either.. I love him and the children with all my heart.. it's getting me down and I just break down in tears any where/everywhere i go.

The last few months have been hell.. I lost my mother-in-law end of July and it gutted me, I loved her so much.. I almost plead with her when I am on my own to come back and give me a sign that there some thing after here, and my husband is coping with his loss.

and then in October my sister-in-law (32 years old) was due to have her baby.. so really threw my self into looking forward to the new arrival to take my mind off "Death" but everything went wrong.. my sister-in-law died in child birth and the baby suffered brain damage due to lack of oxogen. and my poor brother has fell so far apart it's not fair.

This all has made me so down and it's taking hold of me again.
I use to suffer when a child but always seemed to brush it away.. but I can't do it anymore.. i don't know why.

Is it going to get better?

[lilscaredme01]

ok heres the deal i'm absolutley scared out of my mind of what happens after i die....i cant stop thinking about it..i'm only 16 and yet this thought haunts me..alls i want is to be like my friends who dont think about it but i can help it....i'm scared and i cant get rid of this feeling...everyone says to just stop thinking about it because theres nothing i can do about it but how can u stop thinking about something so scary...can somebody help me? please??

[sarahsazzle]

hey i know how u feel about feeling abnormal to everyone else and this website helped me to feel there are other people out there willing to talk about it and not make u feel like a total freak. Had another panic attack today but managed to stop it before it got really bad, Have any of u tried talking to ur doctor about it? and do any of u lot have trigers for the attacks? hope to speak soon sarah xxxx

[helen]

Hi all! I am new to this forum as well and I too suffer from periods of intense fear of death. I am afraid of there being no life beyond. The idea of ceasing to exist terrifies me. I was raised in the catholic faith, but somewhere along the line my education made it really hard to believe in God, the human soul or the eternity thereof.

Oddly enough I am going through a good spell right now. For some days now i have been able to sleep well. Sometimes when I sense early enough that the fear is coming, I can reason myself out of it. Its an internal argument that goes something like this: "Ok, I know where this is going to end if I go down this mental road, so just stop!" Sometimes this does work. Do any of you have mental exercises that help you?

One of you asked about triggers. I think mine is family induced emotional stress. The worst for me was when my godmother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. But the fear also comes with smaller incidents, such as simple fights with my sister.

The only thing stronger than my fear of death is my fear of not being able to overcome it. How will I ever be able to have a family of my own, if the slightest upset (which is of course bound to happen a lot) sends me spiraling into one of my anxiety attacks?

Thanks for listening. Looking forward to your posts.

[sarahsazzle]

hi helen my fear is seems to come whenever im close to my family and i just thinking and going down the road of panicing about death them going and then the fear turns to me about one day i will never be here again and it scares the poo out of me. i do try and do mental excercises to get me out of it like telling myself to relax and just to try and concentrate on my breathing. The worst is when im out in public particulary when im on a bus ( more time to think i suppose) and it starts having to calm myself down so noone notices when my heart is doing what feels like 1000 beats a minute and im going all hot is a challenge, but i seem to be able to calm myself down easier and quicker. I suppose i try not to let the panic attack take total grip of me. How long did u say u had been having the attacks for? hope to speak soon xxxxxxxxxx

[kal el]

I dont fear non-existence. But I do fear the possibility of eternal existence. Universalists say If God is good he would never send someone to Everlasting torment. But lets say you were in some pre-mortal existence and had to guess and speculate what God would allow to happen to people in mortality. I doubt any unborn souls would picture the mortality we now experience. Yet we know it's harsh reality because we are here in it. Why , then should I believe this God we are subject to will be any more fair or reasonable in the post mortal life than he has been in the mortal life?

[TonkaII]

It only natural to fear the unknown, particularly something like that of death. When I was a kid I was at boarding school and would frequently phone my parents telling them not to die on me. As I grew older and life took over I forgot about it, but through the things that i have experienced I realised that maybe things were not so black and white. I am a big believer in life after death and things just don't end there. I have believed in this for a long while, but not till recently did I go to a spiritualist church where there was a clairvoyant from Edinburgh there. Although no one spoke through her to me, there were plenty of people who did get messages from beyond. If you want to find out more information about spiritualism and there churches just have a look at the net for your nearest spiritual church. I would not say I am part of the spiritualist church, I had already come to my conclusions another way. I believe that in this world you have a choice whether not to believe in God or the belief in life after death. I studied ancient history and archaeology and my most favorite topic was understanding how ancient societies understood life after death. Death will happen eventually its up to you how you wish to view it, positively or negatively. I don't particularly wanna die any time soon, but at least I don't feel like that it is game over when you die. Keep Smiling and try to enjoy each day as it comes.

[charlene]

I am so glad i found this site because reading everyones situations is like reading about myself. My fear is becoming so out of control that i have finally gone to see my GP about it and he referred me for phsycotherapy which I pray will help as I am so fed up of being afraid to sleep in case I die and getting that tight crushing feeling in my chest when I go to bed, having constant butterflies in my stomach, analysing every illness symptom I have on the internet, and constantly thinking every day that I am a day closer to when I die.
I am also moody, irritable and down in the dumps all the time and all in all just dont feel like me anymore.
I am sorry other people feel this way but it is a comfort to know that Im not alone.

[amykins]

hi everyone,

My name is Amy and im 14 years old. ive always been very close to my family, espessially my mom. i love her so much and when i was younger i read those chicken soup for the kids soul and i would read the stories about childerem who had to deal with the lose of their mother. I grew up always worrying about what would happen when my mom left the house alone. I just recently had a dream about my mom and dad dying and i had to burying them in my backyard. ive been having alot of these kind of dreams latly and im pretty sure ive developed a phobia of my mother dying. Although i love my mom alot, i dont want to have to worry about her dying. I dont know how i would go on without my mom if she did die. I hate have this chip on my shoulder and if anyone could help me see my mom is fine please help me because i feel like everday i become more and more nervous.

thanks again