[sarahsazzle]

hi im new to the forum and just getting use to it, Ive had a fear of death for a few years now, the thought of there being nothing after this life scares the poo out of me. Ive spoken to my doctor about it but he seems to shrug it off like its nothing to worry about ive suffered from anxiety and panic attacks for a number of years but have yet to find any way to help them. Does anyone have any words of wisdom or suggestions, would be greatly apprechiated....

[LITTLE LISA]

hi sarah

i too fear death !!!!..
this fear started many many years ago infact i rememebr being as young as 8 and crying my eyes out knowing full well i was going to die one day ...
its a horrible thing to worry about as well people who fear dogs, cats , etc can overcome there phobias by slowly introducing themselves to the fear and work on it !!! us who fear death well we havent got that chance its awfull and i still fear it as much as i did now as i did many years ago

i try not to think about it but its on my mind constantley especially little things like i get obsessed with like each birthday i get more n more depressed nowing im one year closer to death -- does that make sense ?????????????

[roburtade]

I'm new to panic attacks as well. My fear does not come from death. It comes from being terrified of dying due to the sensations I am going through. When you say you are afraid of death, the fact that there is nothing after existance...pick up the Bible...no, I am not a Bible thumper. After losing a twin sister in a car accident and an ex-boyfriend to an over dose all within a two year time period sent me through a time where I was obsessed with death. My first question is do you belive in life after death? This fear is something your doctor should not be shrugging off, if it's real to you, then it needs to be resovled. Read your Bible. Have you lost loved ones? do you have some rooted problem in facing the unknown such as this? your cure will come from within. I would like to talk with you (via forum ) and try to help you in resolving your fear. Open your heart, and you mind will follow. I want to say again that I do not want to force religion down your throat. I hate that too. I would like to talk with you in your fear of death. I think I can help, if not be an ear to listen and offer advice..Let me know....

[sarahsazzle]

hi both of you thanks for replying was starting to feel a bit lost on this forum. lisa i know exactly what u mean about fearing it more and more with every birthday and being worried about not just humans going animals to. I was watching the telly the other day and they were talking about panic attacks and how u should confront ur fear and for us thats impossible and the thing with the fear of death is that it is going to happen think thats what scares me the most. Have u tried talking to ur doctor about it?
Roburtade firstly no i dont believe in god i find it hard to believe in a creator which allows its creation to destroy itself, i cant beleive that god would allow the 3rd world to be how it is and i know theres loads of reasons behind it like god gave man power but i just dont believe. Ive lost quiet a few people close to me in a short space of time i lost my mum when i was 8 and have lost my uncle, both grandads and grandma all of who i was very close to bearing in mind im only 20 its a few people to lose, im not saying ive had a terrible life but i do belive that my fear comes from losing my mum. iT would be great to talk to you about it all as i really need someone to help. Is your fear the fear of unknown pains u have that kind of thing? Hope to speak to u both soon
Sarah xxx

[LITTLE LISA]

hi sarah !!!


its madness really and no offence but everytime i mention fear of death someone always mentions god why ????

its crazy i am not a religious person either but i do believe there is life after death !!! this comfprts me enough to be able to cope with day to day life or id be a nervous wreck !!!!

[roburtade]

I know about death. Unfortunatley, it takes losing almost everything to open your eyes to your own blindness. My response was not to push God on anyone..I was curious..I really don't want to talk about religion, somebody will get pissed..but I will say that ironically enough, your reasons for not believing in God are all found in the Bible. Your comments are what most non belivers struggle with. The Bible addresses it directly. And if that is the way you feel, it's fine with me. but if you want answers to the exact questions you had about God, and the third world, and so forth and so on...read your Bible. Regardless of your belief, the answers are still there. I did not read the Bible, take that back, I did, could not understand it, and then serveral years later, when my world was around my news because I lost my twin sister in a car accident (I drove up on it) , was raped, and had my ex-boyfriend die of an overdose all in a two year period, on top of trying to kill myself......I picked it up again, and let me tell you.....those words took on a whole new meaning..and there was knowledge where there was once ignorance.......faith is a wonderful thing..and in the end I sure hope I've been right,,,,without it, I wouldn't be here today........

[>jessica<]

i feel exactly the same...im 17 and have had these attacks since i watched my grandmother die in hospital...just watchin the heart monitor knowing her heart is goin to stop any minute n i coudnt do anything to stop it or help her...she was dieing just as i knew from then just like i will

since that night i have had attacks when i think of death..i go deep into an attack and my skin feels cold like its not mine and m head goes blank just thinkin about me an old woman one minute away from death...then i think it is goin to happen n i go into a mad attack

i hate them and get scared to go sleep on my own because i know i will get one...i recently fell back on my A-level work because i felt so down i couldnt concentrate about anything but how to acept death

i do to try not think about it but it just happens...everything reminds me of it...expesh old people and there every where...and birthdays to me are not a thing to celebrate..it just one step further to diein to me like u x x

[robynn]

Hi,

I am new to this forum as of tonight and the reason I have decided to sign up and respond to this particular thread is that I really feel like I am at my wits end. I am suffering from yet another night of panic and fear, and despite how hard I try to get to sleep, my heart jumps every time I start to drift off and sends me into a mental tailspin. The fear I suffer from of death and dying seems to be consuming me more and more each day and I just don't know what else to do. I can't really talk about it (trying sends me into near hysterics inside of my head), therapy has not worked for me in the past, and I don't know anyone else who has these obsessive and panic-striken thoughts about dying.

I don't know what I am looking for by posting this, but it has to bring about something better than laying in bed terrified. Please reply if you have anything helpful or inspiring to help.

[Christina Lynn]

I am so sorry to hear about your problem. I myself have dealt with panic disorder for 11 years. I to deal with the fear of dying. That is my biggest problem when it comes to my attacks. Everyone is going to bring my final breath. When I first started having the attacks I had them when I went to sleep. I would wake up in a cold sweat, heart pounding (swear it was going to burst out of my chest), shaking, felt lost. It sometimes took me a few minutes to realize where I was. I understand that talking about it makes you uneasy, but I think that is the best way to get over these damn things. I tried to deal with mine on my own for a long time and it just doesn't work. You need the support of family and friends. I know that it makes you feel like you're going crazy, your mind is racing with a million thoughts at once, and that in turn brings on more attacks. It has taken me years to be able to talk myself out of an attack because I refused to seek help and I still refuse to take any medication. I don't want to be dependant on anything to live a normal life. But what works for me now, is to talk myself through the sensations I feel during an attack. If you calm down, control your breathing your heart rate will slow down. Say out loud, "this is just another attack". You've had many of them and you have survived every sinlge one of them, and you will survive the next one too. You have to remember taht you are in control, not the attack. Find something that is relaxing for you. I pray & I do an hour of yoga every day. You have to take time for yourself. Most of my attacks are brought on by stress, so relaxation is huge for me. I have a six year old son and I always feel guilty for locking him out of my room for an hour each day, but it is so much better for both of us because I feel great after wards.
Just remember you are NOT alone. There are tons of people going through the same thing you are everyday. And guess what, they all SURVIVE thier attacks. YOU WILL TOO. I don't know if this has helped you at all. I hope it has. I am here to talk anytime you want. Feel free to send me personal messages if you need to. You're going to be fine.
God Bless

[AndyB]

Hi guys, really new to this forum and only discovered it after thinking "lets see what google says" but I too have an anxiety over death. Not so much how I'm going to die but in not knowing what will happen after. I can't say I'm particularly religous but I just can not accept that there is nothing "after" and so the thought of finding out scares me silly. I've been having panic attacks about this for years but it seems worse lately, particularly after I reached 30 some months ago. I sometimes I feel that I just have not got enough time left to do all the things I want to and that makes it even worse! Crazy I know. To be honest, its a major relief just to read about people that have been discussing these matters. I guess I've naively felt for so long that its me and my problem that I seem a little calmer just knowing there are people that are experiencing similar feelings to myself. So hey, thanks for talking, and if I can be any help, answer questions, wahtever, maybe we can all help each other.