bikerbaby7
16-11-06, 01:00 PM
Hello.....I'm a 47 year old female who got her anxiety under control years ago after therapy/medication. :) Now, I have a friend, male, 58 years old and he has alot of signs of severe anxiety/depression but too "macho" to get help. His wife of 25 years died of cancer 5 years ago, he is remarried, and tries to control EVERYTHING. We went out of town twice and the first time, he threw fits, and drove 11 hours home by himself because he wasn't in control of what the rest of the group was doing. Then, last weekend, we went on mini-holiday where my husband & I drove the four of us to a gorgeous hotel. (about 4 hours away from home) Had a great time driving up but it was obvious he was nervous by not being in control of the driving. When we reached our destination, we all had a few drinks and then had the hotel shuttle drive us to a biker bar (we're all bikers). He FREAKED out when we got there and immediately used the excuse of being tired and called a cab to go back to the hotel. He & his wife stayed in the hotel room for the remainder of the weekend, and when my husband & I called the room on Sunday AM to prepare to drive home, they had left, rented a car, and drove home without us. We had to change our rooms from the 11th floor to the 3rd floor because he couldn't handle the elevator (phobia) and he has to get drunk to fly on an airplane. When he does this, he makes scenes, acts like a baby, but won't get help for his issues. I am understanding of this.....but how do you tell someone there is help out there, and it could make a big difference in his life? His wife informs me he falls into deep depressions and just wants to die, but then comes out of it days later....(bipolar?) He constantly talks about sex....EVERYTHING that is discussed turns into a sexual comment and he drinks alot. I think these are all signs of a BIG problem.....but how do you help someone that doesn't want to admit there is one and does everything to try and hide it by being a BIG MACHO MAN??? Any advice would be helpful.....Thanks
