please help, advice needed

hiya im 17 years old and i think im suffering from anxiety and cud do with some advice.

for quite a while now i can remember feeling nervous about something but when i ask myself what im worried about i cant seem to think of anything. its as though the feeling is just there.
then about 6 weeks ago a close cousin of mine passed away. she was very young and the death was very sudden. since then i have been suffering from symptoms such as: i can feel my heart beating really fast, a constant nervous feeling, nausea, and also feeling like i cant breath.

as well as the death the following week my sister got married and with it being the first wedding in my family in almost 10 years it was pretty stressful. i also got my exam results the week after the wedding and was disappointed with my grades. as u can see i've been going through alot these past two months. could this have triggered the symptoms off?

during the past six weeks the symptoms have been happening on certain days on n off but for the last week its been happening everyday.
im also losing sleep because i feel as though everytime i fall asleep i think my heart starts beating fast and i cant breath

i've spoken to my mum about the way im feeling and she doesnt seem to understand and brushes it off by saying a doctor wont do anythin and that its probably nothing.

is there any advice that anyone can give me?

Hi Pink

What you describe in your post is very common among people who suffer from anxiety. I go through it on a daily basis.

You have to try and keep in mind that it's only anxiety that's causing it and it can't hurt you.

Maybe you could show your mum some of the posts in this forum. That might help her understand.

Good luck
Chris

It sounds like you have many of the symptoms associated with panic attacks. You can take control over them. It is better to try and get them under control now then to wait and see if it just goes away. Unfortunately in most cases is dosent' just go away. I would suggest to you to find something that relaxes you. For example when I begin to feel stressed or know i have a stressful day ahead of me I pray, do yoga, sit in a room alone in silence in and read a good book. You should also try breathing techniques. This will help you lower you heart rate when you get worked up. When the attacks being, say outloud " this is just an attack, it's my mind playing tricks on me" That's all it is. Your body has given you an extra boost of adrineline. You just have to use it up. Excersice is a great way to do this!! If you are concerned you should go see a doctor. They can give you a proper diagnosis of what you have. Again it is sooo important that you learn to control them before they begin to control you. Other things that trigger the attacks are drinking alcohol, smoking, caffine, and stress (among others). If you do anything I listed you may consider cutting that out of your life. (aside from the stress, don't think there is any way of getting away from that) I hope this helps you and puts you mind at ease. (at least a little anyway) I would love to know if any of this helps you hon. My best wishes to you. You will be in my prayers.
God Bless

Go to your doctor, they will listen and they will (hopefully) be supportive. What you are suffering from is not uncommon and they will not judge you for asking for help and advice. Your mum sounds just like mine....."snap out of it, stop being silly, dont make a fuss etc". It's not the way to deal with this....we all understand where your coming from and its nothing to do with 'snapping out of it' or being weak minded or anything like that. You need love, help and support and I know that it is difficult to ask for it sometimes but hang on in there and you can beat this. We'll all be here for you sometimes, particularly in my case, all we can offer is cyber hugs but you will be listened to and whatever advice and support we can give to you I hope will help.
As was said before, show this forum to your mum, you could try writing her a letter to explain how your feeling...maybe if its in black and white she might realise that this is an issue for you and not just a phase.
I hope this has helped and that I dont sound too much like a school teacher or social worker or something (I'm not either by the way...I'm just a normal person like all on here).
Hang on tight babe, you can win and you will come out the otherside
Love 'n' Hugs
Pas xxx

You've taken the first step by posting your feelings. You need to talk to your Mum again. If you don't feel able; or you feel too anxious to actually speak to her e-mail her the link to your post.

Make an appointment to see your Doctor; they will listen and help you. Are you at school or college? If so you shoud have access to a Counsellor who could offer advice and support. Have you spoken to anyone about how you feel about your Berevement? Has to ben worth a try.

I'll be thinking of you.