My Husband

I wish I could get my husband to understand anxiety. I mean he knows what it is, but he thinks I can just pull my self out... He says if its just thoughts and symptoms then just tell your self its nothing,,,, I tell him I do all the time,
My dad had anxiety and alot of fear, and I cant stand my dad, but my husband is always saying you just like your dad,, My dad and I are both hypochondria. The thing for me is I know I am one,, my dad dont,,,
The other day I was having a very bad day, and my husband was says to me,, you get a thought in your head or a symptom and then you keep thinking about it until you have a panic attack,, and I said yeah,, that is what anxiety is,,, and he says, then dont think about it,,,
I wish so bad, it was that easy,, I told him it was like a light switch that gets turned on in my head and I cant get it turned off..
He has no compassion at all for me,,,I know that sounds like self pity,, but if he only knew how bad I am,, and what I go through,, If he could just have one day of what I go through maybe he would understand,,,
He is getting tired of me and all he has to do.. Like shopping, and driving the kids around. When I have a really bad panic attack,, He has to drive me around,, I feel bad,, but I cant help it..
I told him today, I will leave if he is that tired of me,, but he said no,, that is not what he wants,,
Even though he is not supportive,, he is still my safe person... I hate it too,, He use to not be,,
I am sorry to go on, but it was a very bad day, for my anxiety and my marriage,,,
I just had to get this off my chest.. I have like four hours of sleep in like three days,, I either sleep like 16 hours at a time, or I dont sleep at all,, I hate it,,
Ok,, I will stop complaining,,,
Hope everybody is doing good,,,

Hi Lou

I know how you feel. I just wish some people could experience anxiety for a few minutes so they can appreciate how it feels.

If your husband is able to control every thought that enters his head then I truly envy him but once you get into the habit of obsessing about things, it's hard to get out of.

Chris

That is bad. Maybe you should get him to E-mail Rabidbager to hopefully get him to understand, or maybe me.

Without a doubt, one of the hardest things that anxiety sufferers face is the inability of non-sufferers to understand what it feels like.

I could write a thousand word essay on how it feels but it still wouldn't make an "outsider" understand.

Maybe if we could arrange with the local zoo for people to be locked inside a lion's cage and then say "well I feel like that all day every day".

Chris

PS. Lou, I would happily speak to your husband if you thought it would help your situation.

I totally understand, and feel realy sorry for you. My Husband was exactly the same, i also have bi-lateral meniere's disease and this alone made me anxious, my Husband left me 6 days before Christmas, never said he was going and i haven't ever seen him since! He did phone my brother and tell him i was only 20% the woman he married! :mad:

To be honest,i thought even though my Husband didn't understand,i would not be able to manage alone, it has been 5 months and i have a small child too, and yes i still have anxiety and panic attacks, but it is much easier without my Husband,as he was so nasty and made me feel bad about myself, i do cope with my symptoms, i have no choice, it isn't nice and i won't say it doesn't get lonely, but at least i don't have a monster breathing down my neck and making me feel 10 times worse. You may actually be better off without him,you never know :)

Take care

Sally

Hi Sally

Can I ask you how your meniere's disease affects you?

The reason I am asking is because my mum has been diagnosed with it but the doctors didn't really seem to know what it was so it seems like they've just plucked something out of the air.

Every now and then she will start to feel dizzy and sick and have to lie down for hours before it goes away. She also gets a strange buzzing in her ears.

Does this sound familiar?

Chris