Need advice from women

Hi. My husband and I would like to have kids within a year. When I think about kids, it makes me nervous and scared. I want to have kids, but I am worried how my anxiety will be when I start to have a child of my own. I do not know how I will handle it. I worry about pregnancy and labor too. However, I have babysat kids before, and I have babysat a baby by myself and I have fed a baby once. Any advice from women would be appreciated.

well i agree it is a very big step and alot of responsibility and you will wonder how on earth you would cope but believe it or not when you do have that child your anxietys and fears will be smothered by the reponsibilities of being a mum you will be far to busy to even think about worrying !!!!:D :D

Thank you for your response. That eased my fears. I am confident I would be a good mother. My mother-in-law thinks I need to be healthy before I have a child, but it will take a long time to recover from anxiety. I can't wait until I am 50 to have kids. :) LOL. Today, I went to the pharmacy, and they said I had a new prescription Ativan, and I didn't know about that. It's an antianxiety medication, and I didn't know my doctor ordered that prescription so I took one tonight. Maybe she was trying to help me out that would help with my anxiety. But the doctor and I never discussed this medication, which was weird, but if it helps, I am going to take it.

hiya

what meds are you on now cos when i got pregnant they had to take me off what i was on and put me on something else :( ...
hope your feeling ok today :)

Hi

I too am a depression, panick attack anxiety sufferer. I got pregnant a year ago and was stressing about all the things that will go wrong and how bad i will be and then I had a miscarriage...i sat back and kept saying there i was right i knew it would fail. I had counciling and back in decemmber i got pregnant again and this time i had severe morning sickness, depression as i was afraid of loosing the baby again and anxiety, the sickness past and i started to feel movements and felt on top of the world. Unfortunatly at my five month scan they discovered the baby had a form of spina-bifica and wouldn't live they were going to have to induce labour to terminate the pregnancy. I went into depression overdrive , but surpisingly when i came out the other side i acuallly see things in a differnt light.

At least i can get pregnant, at least i know this was a freak thing and i wll try again one day... however my advice to you would be stay off medication if you can and just ensure you take folic acid for three months before you get pregnant and the first three months of pregnancy

Good luck

Hiya,
I completely understand what you mean.. I have just found out that i am pregnant and im only 5 weeks i know that im goin to worry about every twinge to every tiredness..

Im pretty scared but also i see it as a change for the better