obsessive thoughts

Hi all,

I am new here, and I am hoping to find some relief. I have suffured from GAD and obsessive thinking for too long. My mind just plays over and over and over again. Not about anything scary, but about who I've upset or who may be mad at me or who might not like me. I ruminate contstantly and it's literally driving me insane. I feel like I am losing control, and I am not able to live in the present. I have two small children and I feel like when I start obsessing and getting anxious, they don't get the full me. It sucks and I really hate myself for it. I am on cymbalta but it doesn't seem to help. Does anyone know of a medication that can stop the rumination? I am working so hard,. but nothing seems to help. Just when I think I am doing better, something will trigger me (like a tone of voice or a look) and I sink back into panic mode. It's awful.

Any help would be appreciated. Thanks again. JD

Hello JD ...

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time. I have not experienced the same emotions as you but i think that maybe if you come to terms with the reality of people in general, it might get your mind off some of these thoughts.

I will tell you what kind of philosophy i have adopted for general people :D

1. Whatever i do wrong, I shouldnt feel embarassed, Because people who have seen me doing the wrong thing will soon forget.
2. People always talk behind other peoples back, And whatever they say depends more about how they feel rather than what kind of people we are. So if someone is having a bad day, i think they are more likely to be nasty about other people.
3. Since people will always talk behind our backs, and nothing we can do can really change that, i just try not to care about what people think.
4. If i do something good for someone and someone misunderstands it, It is their loss :D.

I think you get the idea... Just try not to worry about what people think, Because we cannot control it, and they will talk the way they want about us depending on how they feel :D

Thats my theory ,, anyway

i hope it helps ... Always stay positive

haunted5

Hi folks

I believe the obsessive thoughts thing comes from a basic insecurity that often accompanies anxiety disorders. You start to doubt yourself and your subconscious ability to do the right thing or make the right decision and you start to think "what if..." all the time.

Very often you'll find that this is accompanied by a physical tendency to do everything in a hurry. If you can tackle this, it may have a reciprocal effect on your racing thoughts - slow the body down, slow the mind down.

I know how worrying it is because I've had it myself. I don't mean to sound rude by asking this but do you drink a lot or do recreational drugs? I always find it is worse when I have been drinking a lot.

Chris

Thanks. I have an occassional glass of wine. And even that does make it worse. I agree, I need to slow down my mind, but no matter how hard I try, the obsessive thoughts just flood in. I think the more I fight it, the worse it gets. My therapist tells me to just "allow" it to be a thought and name it. I try and try. I just think I am a mess.